The Pain of Vasectomy-Desperation for Reversal

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Hi! I would like to encourage anyone out there considering sterilization to trust God with your family size. I really believe He will not give you more than you can handle. I don't think I've ever heard anyone say "I really wish we wouldn't have had so many kids", but I have heard many people cry over not having as many as they'd hoped for, myself included. My husband and I have five beautiful children, ages 6-14 this year. My husband had a vasectomy 6 years ago, two weeks before our 5th child was born. He felt overwhelmed with the responsibility of caring for and, especially, providing for 5 children. Other birth control was not an option for us, due to various reasons, including the fact that I knew that birth control pills and IUDs could allow you to become pregnant and then kill off the pregnancy. I got pregnant very easily, and couldn't give my husband an answer as to how we could support more children, and so I went along with the vasectomy. I felt sick waiting for the procedure to be done, sitting there 8 1/2 months pregnant, but I felt guilty for wanting more when we couldn't afford it. Our whole family felt that we should be done and nobody has been able to understand my heartache at not having more. It has been six years and I have been struggling more every day, feeling that a part of my heart has been ripped out. It has put pressure on our marriage and has made it a struggle for me to enjoy anything. We have decided to get a reversal, but it has been a couple of years and we still haven't managed to save up for the tremendous cost. The older I get (I'll be 33 this year), the more I feel something has been taken from me. I know God will work things out for us in some way, but the pain sometimes feels unbearable. Save yourself the heartache and trust God with your family size. If you've already had sterilization done and you've been able to find peace, please pass along any helpful advice. I've been seeking God's help, but still feel lost.

Has anyone else waited years for a reversal? If so, how did you make it through? Also, if anyone knows of a good christian doctor in Michigan who does reversals for a good price, please pass that along as well. Thanks and God bless!

Addendum

After sending you the follow up to the story about our vasectomy reversal, I have news. My husband came back from a business trip and said he thought about it and didn't see any reason other than his own selfishness to be closed to life so....the first month he opened himself to life, I find out that I am pregnant with number six!!! If this isn't proof of the power of prayer I don't know what is. Thanks for putting my story on the web-site and please pray for our new baby's safety!

Kim




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